FanMail: Dear Tia Mowry

Dear Tia,

Let me start by saying that I truly am a Tia and Tamera Mowry fan.  Ever since the palazzo pants and polka dots of Sister, Sister I’ve always loved how you and your sister have been positive and drama-free.  But if there’s anything the internet can do it’s bring out the ugliness of any situation and make some of our sunniest celebs “go there” all up out of their character.  And for that reason I am going to have to play devil’s advocate for this edition of Fan Mail.

Since the beginning of time opinions have been like assholes; that’s nothing new.  But in 2012 thanks to Twitter, Instagram and the big bright world of blogging, you can now invite those opinions into the privacy of your bedroom with a double-click on Google Chrome.  Unfortunately all of those opinions aren’t pretty as proven by your recent address to criticism being posted in the comments sections of celebrity blogs everywhere about the lack of appreciation people have for how your baby boy, Cree looks.

Just like every friend I have on Facebook isn’t a bestie, every follower you have on Twitter isn’t a fan.  If you put on a show people will watch and not everyone is going to like it.  You can’t expect to invite strangers into your personal life and then catch feelings when someone isn’t in love with every aspect of it, or worse actively hates it.   When you’re a celeb, posting a photo on Instagram is not like looking through a yearbook with old high school buddies.  I wouldn’t share parts of my personal life with all 288 of my Facebook friends (most of whom I have met in person), let alone hundreds of thousands of folks I’ve never laid eyes on.  But then again, maybe that’s why I am not a celebrity for a living.  I personally think it’s unfair that these celebrity kids don’t have a say in whether they want to share in the limelight with their parents.  OK, it’s understandable that as a celeb there will be parts of your personal life that by default are shared with the public.  But with everyone and their mama getting a reality show and allowing their kids to be their co-stars, I can’t help but wonder what happens when those kids become adults and question the say they weren’t allowed to have in their childhood memories being shared with the world.  I’m an average joe and you won’t catch me volunteering pictures of my momma and ‘nem on social networks especially if it isn’t something that they themselves choose to be a part of via their own profile.  It’s not because I can’t handle the criticism that comes with sharing the things and people you love with the public, it’s because I don’t want to have to.  It’s as if these celebs are inviting criticism and drama into their sanctity.

Does that justify the shade being thrown your way and the cruel comments towards a child that isn’t even old enough to understand what’s going on? Absolutely, not but for you to respond to the fuckery just proves that you’re not about that internet life and that maybe more celebs need to think twice before pressing that “post” or signing that reality show contract.  Just like certain opinions shouldn’t be shared, certain parts of people’s life should be kept private especially if they start taking the backlash personally.  It’s probably part of the reason you won’t catch Beyoncé inviting her whole fan base inside of Baby Blue’s bedtime story.  It’s all fun and games when the publicity is poppin’ and everyone is telling you how great your life is but a major problem when a few folks express their disdain.  Just like when Dream Hampton dramatically left Twitter after her child was insulted only to shortly return. I just don’t get it.  If you’re going to share the life of you and your child with the world you’re going to have to learn how to focus on the positive and cease to acknowledge the negative.

And for the record, I don’t know why everyone thinks babies are somehow exempt from being called unattractive.  Would I harass the baby’s parents about what went genetically went wrong or write a monologue in a comments section of MediaTakeout about how facially compromised some celebrity’s kid is?  Of course not, but I know I am not the only one whose taken a look in a friend’s bassinet and had to fight a cringe with a, “Her little booties are so cute!” and you can miss me with the Grimm fairytale curse that will result in me having a beauty challenged newborn just because I don’t think every baby born into this world is adorable just because they are a baby.  What we should be focusing on is if that baby is healthy and happy, because believe it or not there are far worse things in life than being labeled “ugly”.



To read more about Tia’s clap back to the Cree criticism, visit


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