This past week I decided I wanted to get adventurous and put my Urban Decay Naked palettes and Sephora Glossy Glosses on stand-by while I experimented with a pop of color. I’ve been loving the new “bold red lip” trend that has been happening and although my man warned me months ago that my bottom lip was “too big to be so bold”, I figured WTH does he know about beauty and took my behind to a Sephora sales representative for suggestions. I ended up walking out with “The Red O4” a classic bright red and “Crush 23” a deep plum, both cream matte lipsticks.
First the good news, the purple was…different, but in a good way. It was like a deep crushed velvet that would make Prince proud and gave me a dark, vixen old Hollywood look. I probably wouldn’t wear it while teaching a class but it was a definite do for the club. The red on the other hand was just OK. I mean I didn’t look like a demented Bette Davis in “Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?” and it didn’t look wrong, but more so it didn’t look right.
For that reason, I kind of have to agree with rapper A$ap Rocky’s statements in a recent interview.
“I feel like with the red lipstick thing it all depends on the pair of complexion. I’m just being for real. You have to be fair skinned to get away with that. Just like if you were to wear like—f*cking for instance, what do dark skin girls have that you know fair skinned girls cant do… Purple lipstick? Naw, that looks stupid on all girls! Purple lipstick, guys! Like, what the f*ck…”
Grammatically he might need a little help, but is he really that far off with his opinion? Now I’m the first to admit any beauty or fashion or choices I make are to please me eyes and not a man’s, but the truth is some of us look a mess and instead of thanking A$ap for being honest all we can talk about is how his profession and private parts make him wrong by default. I don’t care if it’s cherry red, brick red, or absolutely-right red, ladies on some of you it’s plain wrong and you should stick to the neutrals. I think it’s less about the shade of your skin and more about the size of your pout though. And as a warning for those who will still undoubtedly give the bold red lip a try, it kinda does get everywhere.
Of course in the comments sections of most blogs, women were quick to defend their beauty choices and accuse the rapper of being color-struck and ignorant to all things beauty because he’s **welp** a man (Hello, have you ever heard of Sam Fine or Philly-based Kidd Krush?), but the rapper and all of his Y chromosomes make a valid point. Normally I wouldn’t take beauty advice from a man rocking a hairstyle that looks like it was created in his Mee Maw’s kitchen, but so many times I’ve witnessed women flock to try a trend that just doesn’t work for them. And it’s not so much that you look like a fashion disaster when trying certain trends, they’re just not all the most flattering.
Why continue to wear something just because it looked hot on Rihanna, when it only brings out the “OK” in you instead of the “Aww shit!” that lies within. I saw a woman the other day rocking sky-blue tie-dyed garter tights with cellulite spilling out the sides while she waited for the bus. Those tights were not meant for her and I felt sorry for the son she had in tow with his mom looking like she jumped from the pole to the playground to pick him up. The half-shaved head “Cassie” hairstyle, low-waisted jeans, stiletto nails, ombre hair, peplum: All this shit ain’t for everybody. So often as women we try to force trends to work for us because some so-called fashion expert said it’s “hot”, knowing damn well it'[s not, at least not on you. Only you have to live with liking what you see in the mirror. The mind is a powerful thing and it can justify just about any fuckery. Listen to your gut even if you don’t like what it’s telling you and be honest with the mess you see in the mirror.
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