There’s a big difference between an insecure woman and a woman with insecurities. We all have our days when we question our flaws and mourn our mistakes, but if you feel you have to pull a Warren G. and regulate your man’s behavior to keep him from cheating, you need to check your trust issues and not his ability to be faithful. What many women fail to realize is that before you start working overtime to catch and keep a man, you have to make sure you’ve made sufficient progress on yourself. It’s cliché but it’s still around because it’s true: You can’t expect anyone else to love you, if you don’t love yourself. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you make sure you hair and nails stay done and you like what you see in the mirror, it’s truly knowing your worth and what you deserve from life and love.
I hate to see a woman work harder trying to keep a man from cheating than they do on their 9-5 grind. A relationship will turn an insecure woman in a computer hacker, a private eye and a district attorney. Women will install hidden GPS on their man’s phone, take the day off to follow him while he runs errands, and look for stray hairs under his floor mats all to build up a case about what they usually already know. I’ve seen it from all sides. I’ve been in relationships where I suspected my man was cheating, I’ve cheated and I’ve been the girl that men wanted to cheat with and in every situation I’ve learned there’s only one way a woman can keep a man from cheating: Find a man who wants to be faithful to you. Cheating is a sign that something’s gone off track in your relationship or that someone isn’t ready for a monogamous relationship in the first place. Save yourself the frustration of convincing your eyes of what your heart already knows. Here are six ways women try to keep a man from cheating that never work: