For this edition of fan mail I’ve decided to depart from my usual sarcastic commentary of ridiculous celebrity behavior and do something a little different. It’s easy to point out who’s behind in taxes, who’s getting arrested and who’s getting divorced, but I think it’s important to highlight the celebs who every once in a while try to set a good example.
Many of you know when I’m not writing, I spend most of my days working at a non-profit that specializes in parenting education for teen parents. What you may not know is how much love I have for my teen fathers. For every 15 students I serve in a class, I get maybe one or two fathers. Unfortunately, they often feel outnumbered sitting in a class full of teen mothers, many of whom have already adopted the mindset that they are both their childrens’ “mom and dad” based off of their own negative experiences or resentment they harbor from failed relationships.
I’ve been lucky to witness my fair share of teen fathers who are making the effort to break the cycle. They’re working legit jobs, they’re fighting for custody and they’re going to school. But when they try to participate in class, as I’m sure in many other areas of their lives, people have already made up their minds about them. They’re instantly met with confrontation because everyone’s already assumed they’re a deadbeat before they’ve even told their story. Unfortunately what I also witness far too often is that no one is standing up for them. Even within my own agency, the number of female facilitators greatly outnumbers the males, and I worry that many of these young men have limited access to positive male influences.