I was running late for work yesterday morning as usual, and as I ironed my sundress for this 90 degree day, I heard the familiar voices of Savannah Guthrie, Matt Lauer and Al Roker in the background. I really just wanted to know the chances Philly would have a thunderstorm at rush hour so I could beg my boyfriend to pick me up from work. Surprisingly they had Carson Daly as a special guest (Wow, I haven’t seen him since his days on Last Call when he was looking pale and sickly).
One of the stories that caught my attention was The Changing Face of Marriage in America, which discussed how more couples are saying “I Don’t” and choosing to remix the popular nursery rhyme as first come sex, then comes the baby carriage, and if it works out well maybe we’ll try marriage. Of course some of the trendsetters named in this trend were Kim Kardashian and Kanye West along with the holy messiahs of having children out of wedlock: Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. “Hollywood affects all aspects of the decisions of mainstream America from products to fashion to trends. Now it’s affecting how we do relationships,” stated Laura Baron, Life Coach/Relationship expert. Huh? I think what bothered me most is how this “trend” which was once looked at as a sign of moral decline, was now being applauded because Hollywood was doing it.
When Rihanna rocked a jet black bob for her reincarnation as good girl gone bad via her Umbrella video, I surely ran to my hairstylist to copy it exactly. When Nicki Minaj rocked some Brian Atwood Military Buckle Boots for a local concert a few years back, I got on my grind looking for knockoffs. But if we all let Hollywood set the trends in our personal lives we’d all be unwed mothers who think it’s ok to inject hydrogel in our asses on the regular, and pass the hours of the day engaging in Twitter beefs over men who move through relationships like train transfers.
The piece also points out that marriage rates are at their lowest in over a century, but I think it’s more of a matter of art imitating life than life imitating art. I can’t help but feel like not even 5 years ago we were shaking our heads and looking down our noses at celebs like Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin for being unwed teen mothers. Because even if they did have the finances to support these children, of course they were irresponsible and involved in unstable relationships. Teenage relationships by their nature are unstable, right? And that is no way to raise a healthy child.